Confidence is a simple concept; be aware of what you’re good at and know your value. The body shows what the mind thinks; our thoughts have so much power. It’s important to be mindful of how you speak to yourself, you know your own voice in our head. Don’t sabotage yourself with negative thinking, it can be just as harsh if not worse than words from someone else.
Posture – Mom was on to something here. I was an outgoing kid who morphed into a somewhat shy and timid person. As an adult, I still find myself sometimes walking with my head down and I have to catch myself. I can hear my old charm school teacher voice in my head, telling me to look up and smile. I’ll never forget our walking lessons; Ms. Gerri would always say to walk like someone was holding your head up with a string, shoulders back, chest strong and always be aware of your surroundings. We even had to walk with books on our heads, so I was forced to start looking up. Ms. Gerri was FIERCE honey, and I admired her confidence, she taught us that there was power in a woman who could walk and talk like they owned the room while still keeping in tune with her feminity. There is certainly power in good posture.
I challenge you to be more mindful of how you walk and sit over the next few days. Of course, I don’t mean when you are at home relaxing. I’m talking more like when you are typing something important, in a meeting, sending a pitch email, even on an important phone call; check your posture and see how your voice and approach changes when you sit up straight.
Speak Up – Nothing annoys me more than mumbling. When conversing with someone if you don’t look up, talk clear and enunciate your words you may find them asking you to repeat yourself, and a few rounds of that could break your confidence. Take a deep breath, speak slowly and clear with a loud but not shouting tone. Even if you are a bit nervous slowing down and speaking clear will help shake those nerves. Back in college when I took public speaking the professor advised us to record ourselves practicing a speech. That simple exercise helped me so much; you can get a feel for how you sound and make adjustments.
The adapt & respond technology of the Secret Clinical Strength® senses my sweat levels throughout the day, and adjust the protection, keeping me cool, dry and fresh. I’m a firm believer in the whole when you look good; you feel good. I can’t be the only one who has a little extra pep in her step when I’m wearing something nice, my makeup and hair are are done, and I have just the right accessories. I feel like a million bucks when I feel good about my look, and that instantly makes me feel more confident.
When all else fails, fake it till you make it. Sounds crazy but if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will so act the part until you believe it, and soon it will be second nature.